September 29, 2010


I went through a breakup recently. I dated this person for almost a year. I have never been in a serious adult relationship. I have never lived with a boyfriend. Meeting of the parents rarely happens. I have always understood relationships but always wondered why I couldn't find a special one of my own. Enter boy. He blew into my life like a quiet tornado. I didn't even see him coming. While I could go on and on about my ex boyfriend, I don't have the energy or feel like you would be very entertained. Instead this post is to serve as what I learned from my first almost very serious relationship.
1. REAL love is unconditional. Not conditional.

2. It takes two people to make a relationship work. Two people giving themselves 100 percent every single day. 

3. If you are the only one talking in your relationship then something is wrong. If your boyfriend is just nodding his head while you are spilling your guts, chances are, he doesn't feel the same.

4. Both people in the relationship need to have their OWN goals. Of course you should plan a future together, but your own future should matter most. Who you are and who you want to be. 

5. If you are afraid every day that things just may not work out, then something needs to change. You shouldn't waste your time worrying about how he feels. If you look into his eyes and you're still scared... you're probably not with the right person.

This being said, I love LOVE. So much. I am 100 percent a romantic. Through and through. I believe in true love. Real love. And I know someday I will have it. I want love for everyone I know. Everyone in the world to be honest. Even after my breakup I still believe in true love. My spirit is still very much alive. And I thank God for the strength he's given me to move on ♥

10 comments:

  1. You are amazing. Smart, beautiful, insightful, brilliant, strong, compassionate. I'm glad we're friends. =)

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  2. I love this post and am SO unbelievably proud of you. You've learned and grown so much in your relationships and handle things gracefully. You're so smart and beautiful and deserve the kind of love you give. And you will find it, I promise. <3

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  4. I'm a romantic as well... Which probably explains why I sometimes still feel the pain of my breakup LAST summer, ugh. It was a four-year relationship, one that I didn't realize was quite disfunctional until after it was over. Double ugh. But thank goodness for the lessons learned. My favorite is to see things as they are, and not as you want them to be. Here's to moving on. And up :)

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  5. Great post. A few months ago i broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years and it was devastating.

    Lesson learned.

    But love is patient and so am I. it will come when its meant to be

    -Cass

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  6. oh sweetie this is such a great post!! all of your points are so true and relationships are truly always a growing and learning process, so it's great you came out of the relationship with these points in mind! xo

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  7. I'm sorry to hear about this but I'm glad to see you haven't given up on love despite what you've been through. I hope everything works out for you.

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  8. Oh friend! I love you! God takes us through these trials so that we can learn from them and become the strong woman he wants us to be!!! I love LOVE too. We are soulmates I think? <333

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  9. like the song says/...breaking up is hard to do:(
    i am sorry lady but I am glad you are moving forward:)

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  10. Aw, I'm sorry that it didn't work out, but I know that you will find someone AMAZING one day (hopefully soon!) who will deserve you and treat you the way to need to be treated! He is out there, looking for you! :) I really liked the points that you shared, they are SO true.

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